Yup. There's a fine line between caring and wanting the best for your kids, and interfering too much in their lives. Children are on loan to you, then you have to let them go and do their own thing, as adults - and that includes making mistakes. Who learns anything if they don't make mistakes? Give them a long piece of string and they'll always come back to you for help and advice when they need it. At least, this is what I think.
That sounds like a pretty good approach to me. My mother tried to interfere a little too much when I was growing up and it did me no favours, but I know now that she did it with the best of intentions. Unfortunately, to quote a saying, the road to hell can be paved with them.
is Judy his mother protecting him, or smothering him? we can all draw our own inferences from Beckers article, although we have to realise we will taint our ideas with how our own relationship with our mothers is constructed. Andy is still maturing in the sense that he is building his own independent life, allowing his mother to dip in and out of it as he feels fit. Ultimately its not about Andy cutting the apron strings, but perhaps about Judy letting go more.
Interesting point that.
When i look at her relationship with Jamie, i get the sense that Jamie is able to find a more balanced approach with his mother. This is the kind of construct that Andy needs to nurture with his mother (it also depends on Judy allowing this to happen). A new coach that Andy wants - perhaps going against his mothers own ideas - is something i believe will speed up this maturing process for Andy and could signal to Judy, that its time she stepped back from the front line so to speak if indeed she is on it.
Of course, without knowing the family personally, this could be wide of the mark, but, despite what it may seem, I've always got the impression that Jamie is her favourite. If true, could she be over-compensating for this by devoting so much of her time to Andy now?