I never said everyone is on my back, now did I? So far it was Clydey and then you decided to join because you didn’t like what I wrote last night to Aileen. I, in fact, get along with men much better than women and I personally prefer them because I find them straight forward and less complicated but that doesn’t mean they are flawless either. I never said I am precious either or that I am anti-men. You are concluding it completely on your own. If you want to stay in denial about the fact that men are more prone to cheating and therefore, lying then more power to you. I don’t know if you know this but infidelity is the number one reason why most marriages end up in divorce. I mean have you not read Aileen’s story yet? I have female friends and I hear stories all the time. They tell me how they always have to keep an eye on their husbands and how they never want to let them get out of their sight. Do you really think that’s what marriage should be all about?
The reason why I personally don’t care for marriages is because, I care for a very healthy relationship – a piece of paper declaring a marriage to someone who has no respect for me has very little meaning to me - because frankly, if there’s no love there’s no relationship for me. If you can’t trust a person, man or women, you are going to spend rest of your life with, if that person doesn’t give you proper respect then why should I care for that sort of marriage? How many marriages can you tell me honestly are actually working these days? People make their choices and that’s fine by me. I don’t want to have 3 babies and then complain about it day and night. People make mistakes I get it and I have made a ton of them. In fact, if I could back, I would change quite a few things. Anyway, I am not here to call on it. I just state the way I see it. As I say always, life is not meant to be easy and we are both responsible for it the way we shape it and maybe in some cases, one is more responsible than other. They say when it comes to free will or free choices, only the very first step you are free to choose; anything after that then becomes inevitable.
Look Joe, this is draining me a bit. For that reason, I will personally communicate with Aileen which I have been doing so since yesterday anyway. It’s personal stuff and should remain personal. I don’t think Clydey is a bad person at all; it’s just that we can’t see eye to eye on things right now. He hates me and thinks very low of me and so be it. I don’t think I will be able to please everyone especially when I always have different stuff to say.
Emma you are entitled to your opinion on marriage but I disagree with some of your statements. I am very happily married and have a healthy relationship. No hang ups, no cheating, no possessiveness, lot of respect for each other and a whole lot of love. Some of my friends are married and some are not and all have healthy relationships. Sure, there are disagreements sometimes that's only human nature but we are all happy. Just because you are married doesn't mean you are in an unhealthy relationship with no respect for each other.
A good relationship takes work on both sides but in my opinion I wouldn't give up what I've got for the world and I am sure there are a lot of people on this site who feel the same.