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Re: Death « Reply #15 on: July 21, 2010, 08:44 AM »
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I think when someone dies you should mourn them, but that's it. They are gone, they are at peace. Stop reminding yourself that they are dead by saying "it's been one year". It's morbid. Remember their live and tell stories about them. Don't carry on mourning. This irritates me. Might sound insensitive and you can argue that I don't know what it feels like to lose someone close coz I guess I've "been lucky".
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Re: Death « Reply #16 on: July 21, 2010, 09:13 AM »
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^ If you lose someone really close, it's very difficult not to miss and mourn them.  In my experience, it's not something you get over - you just learn to live with it. 
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Re: Death « Reply #17 on: July 21, 2010, 09:20 AM »
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Well yeah, learn to live with it. I'm just saying people post of facebook "grandad been gone 5 years today" it's like - celebrate their life not remember their death. It's like, death is sad and sets people in a negative setting. I believe people should aim to be positive and happy. If that makes sense Think maybe I'll think differently.
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Re: Death « Reply #18 on: July 21, 2010, 09:23 AM »
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Well yeah, learn to live with it. I'm just saying people post of facebook "grandad been gone 5 years today" it's like - celebrate their life not remember their death. It's like, death is sad and sets people in a negative setting. I believe people should aim to be positive and happy. If that makes sense Think maybe I'll think differently.
Re 'Facebook' - that is a shade morbid...  lol
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Re: Death « Reply #19 on: July 21, 2010, 09:27 AM »
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Re 'Facebook' - that is a shade morbid...  lol

Yes!! I have to bite my lip to stop saying something. Though I think maybe it depends on the way the deceased passed. Old age is a part of life we are all waiting for, my brothers girlfriend lost her dad to cancer at Christmas only finding out 6 months before he was even sick. And she had a cousin who hung himself about 18 months ago. Maybe stuff like that is harder to comprehend.
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Re: Death « Reply #20 on: July 21, 2010, 11:34 AM »
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I'm afraid of death which is why getting older makes me feel so bad even at my young age.

Unfortunately, my fear of death mainly comes from the brainwashing of being brought up a Christian and therefore the idea of hell, however stupid it is. Also, I love life so I'm very upset that my existence must end completely with no afterlife.
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Re: Death « Reply #21 on: July 21, 2010, 11:37 AM »
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By then, your four sons will be running MW.
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Re: Death « Reply #22 on: July 21, 2010, 11:39 AM »
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Obviously lol

Anyway, when it comes to death, it's the only time I envy Christians, it must be so nice believing your life goes on after death. I do secretly like to think there is an afterlife but my brain is such a buzzkill in those moments.
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Re: Death « Reply #23 on: July 21, 2010, 11:44 AM »
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I don't fear death, I feel invincible.  I'm not afraid of pain, I don't like but I put myself though stuff when I know I would recieve pain.
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Re: Death « Reply #24 on: July 21, 2010, 11:54 AM »
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I don't know about how the rest of you feel, but when I was young old age seemed like something that could never happen to me, but something that only happened to other people. 
I think that's the same for most people but certainly not me, I worry about it enough that I will totally see it coming, not sure if that's a good or bad thing though.
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Re: Death « Reply #25 on: July 21, 2010, 11:55 AM »
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Yes!  Thats exactly me! Very Happy  Always happens to other people.
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Re: Death « Reply #26 on: July 21, 2010, 03:15 PM »
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Anyway, when it comes to death, it's the only time I envy Christians, it must be so nice believing your life goes on after death. I do secretly like to think there is an afterlife but my brain is such a buzzkill in those moments.
I'm not a practising Christian, Mark, but thanks to a few experiences I've had after the death of immediate family, I do believe in an afterlife, albeit as a period of transition from one life to the next, although it certainly won't be life as we knew it, which is why death does make me feel apprehensive.

Also Christianity doesn't focus entirely on the idea of Hell.  It's just done by the church as a way of trying to scare us into being nice, good, wholesome people.  How boring!  Some so-called venial sins are perfectly acceptable to me, so long as they don't hurt others.

I think when someone dies you should mourn them, but that's it. They are gone, they are at peace. Stop reminding yourself that they are dead by saying "it's been one year". It's morbid. Remember their live and tell stories about them. Don't carry on mourning. This irritates me. Might sound insensitive and you can argue that I don't know what it feels like to lose someone close coz I guess I've "been lucky".
You won't really know how you'll react until you've been tested, but I do agree that the grieving process can be taken a bit too far.  A psychologist once told me that most people grieve on average for about two years.  But a lot must depend on the person and the circumstances of the death of a loved one - e.g. the loss of a child must be incredibly hard for the parents to bear.

I think that's the same for most people but certainly not me, I worry about it enough that I will totally see it coming, not sure if that's a good or bad thing though.
I used to worry about it too at times but, believe me, unless you're very unlucky, the process is so gradual and so natural that you'll barely notice it happening.
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Re: Death « Reply #27 on: July 22, 2010, 04:27 PM »
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Not afraid of death, but could definitely be afraid of the "dying process" .....

Exactly. My sister died last September after having suffered immense pain for 6 months due to bone cancer. The thought of going what she went through terrifies me. And at the same time makes me appreciate every moment I have alive.
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Re: Death « Reply #28 on: July 22, 2010, 04:35 PM »
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Exactly. My sister died last September after having suffered immense pain for 6 months due to bone cancer. The thought of going what she went through terrifies me. And at the same time makes me appreciate every moment I have alive.

I always thought, if you're ill and in pain then you'll be fine coz your body is fighting back.  If you ill and can't feel it then you need to worry.  Not the case here it seems Frown  Sorry to hear about your sister.  Cancer is a horrible way to extra the party hug
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Re: Death « Reply #29 on: July 22, 2010, 04:41 PM »
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Exactly. My sister died last September after having suffered immense pain for 6 months due to bone cancer. The thought of going what she went through terrifies me. And at the same time makes me appreciate every moment I have alive.

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