He's Asperger's. Main difficulty is organisation, executive function, communication.
Never missed a class, met with his Disabiity Adviser weekly (his appts. were always on his day off but he still went.) She would give him a schedule, but obviously this wasn't working for him.
We've just discovered there were other more appropriate supports available to keep him on track, specifically visual technology.
It's not a blame-game.. it is what it is. The DA wasn't aware the schedule wasn't a good fit.. my son wasn't aware there were other options.
He was completely overwhelmed.
He wants to try again but is deeply worried of failure.. so right now I'm helping him in the process of piecing all his options together by getting a feedback/appts with Profs, Careers Adviser, Disability Office, Academic Adviser.
If I wasn't on the scene, he would have just left everything as it was and given up.
Sorry.. this is the wrong thread for my blah blah. But where does free will come into this, Clydey?
It's the same as everyone else. It isn't his fault. He didn't choose his genes or his environment. We all feel like we have free will and society operates as though we have free will (people are accountable for their actions, etc.) That's the way it should be, in my opinion.
It's a difficult issue to discuss because it is superficially simple, yet is actually pretty complex. For example, I can't murder someone and then claim I wasn't responsible. It might ultimately be true that I wasn't responsible, but ignoring personal responsibility would have massive repercussions for society. Everyone could essentially claim diminished capacity.
It's a little different with mental conditions like Asperger's. Your son has a recognised cognitive disorder, so society wouldn't expect him to meet the usual standards of responsibility.
Did you pay a lot of money for his time at uni? If it's about building his confidence, the good thing is that you have identified that there are more suitable options for him. If he is worried about failing and costing you money, I can understand why he is apprehensive.
I suppose it's about identifying what caused him to be overwhelmed. Did he struggle with deadlines? I have my own issues that make me struggle with deadlines, so I had to find a way to deal with that. Thankfully, my lecturers have been understanding. In fact, I have an essay due tomorrow.