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Guilt. « on: September 05, 2010, 12:21 AM »
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The second in my conversation series, no 1 was Death.

Have you ever done anything that was reprehensible? Was it a brief moment of contemplation, or did it keep you awake at night?

The only thing that springs to mind right now was when I was a youngster, and I was chasing another boy and absolutely pelting him with a Super Soaker. The guy looked like a drowned rat, and was peddling away on his bike to try and escape, but the water must have disorientated him so much that he crashed head-on into a wooden fence, and cut his forehead open. Think he needed stitches too.

Anyone with worse than that to share? James, you must have done something worse.


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Re: Guilt. « Reply #1 on: September 05, 2010, 12:31 AM »
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Off the top of my head, it was probably when I hit some dude when I was in my teens. Everyone was egging me on, telling me that he was slagging me off. I walked up and punched him square in the nose, then attempted to karate kick him and missed. He ran off crying and I was absolutely crippled with guilt.

The guy hadn't done anything wrong and was harmless.
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #2 on: September 05, 2010, 12:31 AM »
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You're violent, the both of you.
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #3 on: September 05, 2010, 12:32 AM »
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You big brute.

Then again, mine was worse, I was armed.
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #4 on: September 05, 2010, 12:33 AM »
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You big brute.

Then again, mine was worse, I was armed.

I'll try to think of a few more instances.
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #5 on: September 05, 2010, 03:37 AM »
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The thing I've always felt the most guilt about was something that happened in my childhood.  When I was nine there was a girl at school I disliked intensely.  Her only crime, however, was that she was a skinny little thing with straggly hair, a very thin face and a tendency to whinge.  She had no sense of humour either and was generally unpopular.

I'd never bullied anybody before, but I decided I was going to make this child's life miserable, which I did for several weeks until one day I lost my temper with her and slapped her.  When she hit me back I scratched her face.  It wasn't a bad scratch but for some reason it left a permanent mark on her left cheek and I was faced with the consequences of my actions every time I saw her.  Fortunately she left three years later.

Even now I feel ashamed of what I did.
 

     
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #6 on: September 05, 2010, 08:02 AM »
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All violent actions resulting in guilt? that's all we got?! The first time I felt pure guilt was the day after I slept with a guy knowing he had a girlfriend (and a child) which he had just reunited with the month earilier. I felt like **** and was scared shed find out and come at me with a chain saw. Luckily the day after that I felt much better about it. He has since split from his gf as I predicted, they never got along. I think if it was a more loving relationship and family I would have felt loads worse. My comfort in it wasn't knowing it wasn't gonna work out for them from the start anyway. They only got back together for the kid.
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #7 on: September 05, 2010, 02:55 PM »
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All violent actions resulting in guilt? that's all we got?!
It isn't only the violent action that's causing my guilt, but the thoroughly reprehensibe bullying which preceded it.  I'd never bullied anyone before and never did so again.  I've been the victim of bullying myself, so I know what it's like.
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #8 on: September 05, 2010, 07:17 PM »
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I feel guilty now and yet I don't know why. At the beginning of July we sent our granddaughter a cheque for £200 towards driving lessons. It was her birthday present plus something to congratulate her for all her O Level passes last year and her AS passes this year. We have heard nothing except from her Mum to say she had received the cheque. Mum found that and other birthday cheques and asked her if she had said thankyou for them. 'No, I'll send them a text when I have time' - so when I was told this I blew a gasket and told her mother in no uncertain terms what I thought of Rebecca's attitude and would she pass it on. Always had very good relationships with my grandchildren but this made me so cross.
Her Mum said she herself had been having a few problems with said young lady just recently although they usually get along very well. Supposing my grand daughter is in some kind of trouble and my anger just triggers off a chain of events I wouldn't wish for! That's my guilt - for having 'lost it' and me so usually cool, calm and collected. There must be many more things if I go back but this was immediate.
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #9 on: September 05, 2010, 07:40 PM »
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What a horrible feeling Jan and impossible to say, "don't dwell upon it" ... any chance you could have lunch with your grandaughter, or would that be too out of the ordinary?  I was really thinking it would be nice if you could peel her away and get her on her own so that you could have a little tete a tete re any possible problems?
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #10 on: September 05, 2010, 07:40 PM »
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I feel guilty now and yet I don't know why. At the beginning of July we sent our granddaughter a cheque for £200 towards driving lessons. It was her birthday present plus something to congratulate her for all her O Level passes last year and her AS passes this year. We have heard nothing except from her Mum to say she had received the cheque. Mum found that and other birthday cheques and asked her if she had said thankyou for them. 'No, I'll send them a text when I have time' - so when I was told this I blew a gasket and told her mother in no uncertain terms what I thought of Rebecca's attitude and would she pass it on. Always had very good relationships with my grandchildren but this made me so cross.
Her Mum said she herself had been having a few problems with said young lady just recently although they usually get along very well. Supposing my grand daughter is in some kind of trouble and my anger just triggers off a chain of events I wouldn't wish for! That's my guilt - for having 'lost it' and me so usually cool, calm and collected. There must be many more things if I go back but this was immediate.

hug I'm sure that won't be the case. Teenagers are a touchy and odd bunch lol I'm sure your granddaughter was grateful for what you gave her, but sometimes we get so used to getting certain things we take them for granted.
My brother and I have a very generous great-uncle and the other year I had to pull myself up when I started working out what I was going to spend the money on before it arrived Frown I was taking it for granted.
I'm sure you get my drift Smile I'm sure all will be well and when your granddaughter has passed her test (when she does) and has grown up a bit more she will look back and realise how blessed she is to have you hug
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #11 on: September 06, 2010, 12:57 AM »
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I feel guilty now and yet I don't know why. At the beginning of July we sent our granddaughter a cheque for £200 towards driving lessons. It was her birthday present plus something to congratulate her for all her O Level passes last year and her AS passes this year. We have heard nothing except from her Mum to say she had received the cheque. Mum found that and other birthday cheques and asked her if she had said thankyou for them. 'No, I'll send them a text when I have time' - so when I was told this I blew a gasket and told her mother in no uncertain terms what I thought of Rebecca's attitude and would she pass it on. Always had very good relationships with my grandchildren but this made me so cross.
Her Mum said she herself had been having a few problems with said young lady just recently although they usually get along very well. Supposing my grand daughter is in some kind of trouble and my anger just triggers off a chain of events I wouldn't wish for! That's my guilt - for having 'lost it' and me so usually cool, calm and collected. There must be many more things if I go back but this was immediate.
Don't blame you Jan.  I can understand how you felt, but I'm afraid that today's youngsters do seem to expect an awful lot and give precious little thanks in return.  She'll send you a text message?  What happened to the days when we sat down and wrote "thank you" letters for birthday and Xmas presents, etc?  I found that a real pain, because my birthday is 30 November, and I had no sooner written one lot when I had to write another!  If your grand-daughter isn't up to writing letters, then a "thank-you" card, or a phone call, would be acceptable.
 
By the way, I endorse Daisy's suggestion.  If she has a problem she might open up to you if it's something she feels she can't discuss with her mother.
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #12 on: September 06, 2010, 01:22 AM »
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My problem is I feel very guilty very easily. Sometimes its even over nothing and I think about it and I hate it but thats how I am.
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #13 on: September 12, 2010, 12:43 AM »
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I used to wish people whom I was angry at would die, and then one day, one of those people died and I thought it had something to do with me but I obviously didn't kill them.
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Re: Guilt. « Reply #14 on: September 12, 2010, 12:46 AM »
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^ Eh?  Surely you're not serious?
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