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Is marriage the right thing to do? « on: March 20, 2009, 10:56 AM »
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Quote from: Mark on March 20, 2009, 10:26 AM
16-17 are the last years of your typical irrational teenager I think. Personally I was pretty decent in my teens and didn't cause my parents much stress.

Not for me, I think I still irritate my parents in my selfish ways, theres just less of it now and as they are used to years of trouble when my brothers where at home they pick up on little things that I do which sends me into proper paddy-wack mode.

Also, is a long term relationship much different to marrage? Think The only difference I see is the legal (and religious I guess) contract between you.
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #1 on: March 20, 2009, 11:00 AM »
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I think after so many years (in a long term relationship), you're common law man and wife.
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #2 on: March 20, 2009, 11:02 AM »
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If you are in a loving long term relationship then for me, I see marriage as only negatives.

Why sign a contract to say that you promise to love that person forever? How unromantic. I will love that person as long as I naturally feel love for that person but won't promise to love that person forever. I also don't like the feeling of being trapped with someone even though I would have no intention of leaving that person.
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #3 on: March 20, 2009, 11:03 AM »
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Quote from: Quackers on March 20, 2009, 10:56 AM
Also, is a long term relationship much different to marrage? Think The only difference I see is the legal (and religious I guess) contract between you.

Probably depends why you get married...  If it is just convenience, and is viewed a something you can get out of if you want then it probably doesn't make any difference.  In the case of people who view marriage as a promise before God (as we do) then the relationship is founded on the strong belief that it is forever - good or bad - and that gives a real incentive to make it work through the good and the bad.  I remember reading some research that showed that Christian married couples had more frequent and enjoyable physical relationships in the longterm than their non-married/un-married counterparts - but it was a while ago and I don't have a link to it I'm afraid... Frown

The other benefit of being religious is that the bible specifically prohibits denying your partner sex unless it is mutually agreed, and then only for a short period cmon yeah  The secret perks of being a holy-joe Very Happy
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #4 on: March 20, 2009, 11:04 AM »
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Why does marriage exist at all? Does it stem from religion?
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #5 on: March 20, 2009, 11:05 AM »
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The other benefit of being religious is that the bible specifically prohibits denying your partner sex unless it is mutually agreed, and then only for a short period cmon yeah  The secret perks of being a holy-joe Very Happy

Thank gawd I'm not religious! cmon yeah
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #6 on: March 20, 2009, 11:06 AM »
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Quote from: Mark on March 20, 2009, 11:02 AM
I also don't like the feeling of being trapped with someone even though I would have no intention of leaving that person.

Are you the kind of person who can't relax in a room if the door is closed Think I'm sure there is a deep psychological issue here... 

When we got married it was the promise that was important - the marriage certificate is just a piece of paper in the end.
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #7 on: March 20, 2009, 11:06 AM »
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Quote from: Mark on March 20, 2009, 11:04 AM
Why does marriage exist at all? Does it stem from religion?

Lighten up - it's FRIDAY!  Well, it's actually Saturday now where I am.
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #8 on: March 20, 2009, 11:07 AM »
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Quote from: charlienomad on March 20, 2009, 11:06 AM
Are you the kind of person who can't relax in a room if the door is closed Think I'm sure there is a deep psychological issue here... 
Not at all, have no problem with small places and being in a closed room.
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #9 on: March 20, 2009, 11:08 AM »
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Quote from: charlienomad on March 20, 2009, 11:06 AM

When we got married it was the promise that was important - the marriage certificate is just a piece of paper in the end.

yes  I'm not bothered about all that before God mularky.
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #10 on: March 20, 2009, 11:08 AM »
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I'm not religious but I'd like to get married one day.
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #11 on: March 20, 2009, 11:09 AM »
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I do admit that the one good thing about marriage is you can't withhold sex but that's not an advantage over not getting married as if the other person withholds sex you just leave them.
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #12 on: March 20, 2009, 11:09 AM »
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Genesis 2 v 24 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."

In Christianity, which is the only religion I can speak about with any knowledge, the idea of becoming "One flesh" is really important - it signifies that the union is permenant (and God-ordained)...  The Christian marriage ceremony reflects that.  Hence the whole thing of no sex before marriage etc
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #13 on: March 20, 2009, 11:10 AM »
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Quote from: Mark on March 20, 2009, 11:02 AM
If you are in a loving long term relationship then for me, I see marriage as only negatives.

Why sign a contract to say that you promise to love that person forever? How unromantic.

You are putting into words that you promise to love that person, till death, no matter what - what could be more romantic than that!? Think
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Re: Is marriage the right thing to do? « Reply #14 on: March 20, 2009, 11:11 AM »
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If marriage originates from religion then that is another reason I have no interest in it.
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