I would be quite interested in a poll of No voter's thoughts. And you should not confuse respect for the Queen's achievements with worries about her view on independence. She has seen many Commonwealth countries attain independence, and even become republics, another one would be no big deal. And in any case the queendom would still have been united, although the legislatures would be separate. I make no secret or apology for my dislike of any hereditary constitutional power, but I recognise the apparent value of this particular individual, although the truth about what really goes on in these elevated circles is almost impossible to determine.
I can shed some light on this from a friend who works regularly with the Queen and her family. She says the Queen is privately an extremely rude and charmless individual, the rest of the family are not much better apart from Will and Kate who are constantly apologising for the rudeness of their relatives. Having a royal family and all their paeantry in some weird way makes people happy so we should probably keep them but when it comes down to it they are the ultimate symbol of a deeply divided class system.