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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #60 on: August 13, 2013, 01:16 PM »
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^.......nor me!
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #61 on: August 14, 2013, 12:06 PM »
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Fast_clay on umpire Gerry Armstrong's mistake during the Djokovic vs Nadal match:

armstrong looked like he was suffering from alzheimers for about 3 minutes there... dead set dementia sufferer... could almost smell the fresh soil in his underwear...

Sorry Prodigy, nothing personal, but not only is that not funny, it's really distasteful. Try looking after someone with dementia, or watching someone you love turn from a fiesty, strong-willed person, into not much more than a frightened child, who did wet and soil herself sometimes, and you will understand why 'humour' like that just isn't funny. People do throw around comments about people being senile etc, like it's a laughing matter, but Alzheimer's is an illness, and dementia is a distressing part of that, both for the person with the condition and their loved ones.
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #62 on: August 14, 2013, 12:20 PM »
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My apologies. I realise how distasteful it is.
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #63 on: August 14, 2013, 12:31 PM »
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My apologies. I realise how distasteful it is.
Well done Prodigy. hug
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #64 on: August 14, 2013, 12:33 PM »
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I deleted the comment.
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #65 on: August 14, 2013, 12:41 PM »
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I deleted the comment.

Well done Prod, much appreciated, thanks hug
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #66 on: August 14, 2013, 01:25 PM »
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thanks prod. TJ explained very well why I didn't find it funny (but I hadn't wanted to spell it out) so thanks to you too tj.  I've not experienced dementia at first hand but I do know from others how very distressing it is. 
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #67 on: August 14, 2013, 03:18 PM »
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thanks prod. TJ explained very well why I didn't find it funny (but I hadn't wanted to spell it out) so thanks to you too tj.  I've not experienced dementia at first hand but I do know from others how very distressing it is. 


Thanks Ruthie.

I must say I'm sure Prod didn't mean to be offensive or hurtful, and I must repeat my gratitude for him deleting the original post, which was just the repeat of a second hand comment anyway. That's why I didn't want Prod to feel that I, or any of us, was ganging up on him.

The thing is, I think people tend to think of Alzheimer's and dementia as just an old person having a bad memory, i.e. not knowing what day it is, who the Prime Minister is, that sort of thing. I have a dodgy memory myself, and do joke about it at times, but Alzheimer's and dementia are something quite different, and as I suggested before, not a laughing matter.

My mother didn't have Alzheimer's, but she did have a form of dementia. In her case her deterioration was slower than it would be for a person with Alzheimer's, but had she lived long enough it would have ultimately been much the same. It might sound terrible to say it, but I'm almost glad she died before the point where she forgot who her family were. That, had it happened, would have been one blow too far for a woman who had lost any real sense of joy in life and all her independence.

After my father's death I looked after Mum for two and a half years, until she died. It was tough for both of us, but at the same time we shared some moments that I'll always cherish. Typically of dementia, Mum remembered years and years back much better than she could remember an hour or so back. She recalled meeting my father like it was yesterday, more than 50 years after the event. She told me some stuff about her childhood, things she'd experienced, and also about the early days of her marriage to Dad, raising all their own children together, before they started again by adopting the rest of us - gluttons for punishment my parents!

Those moments with Mum almost make up for the bad times, the awkwardness she felt when she just couldn't remember something, the fear of being asked to do something out of her routine (dementia sufferers seem to need routine, the unknown becomes a nightmare) and worse, the day to day humiliations these sorts of conditions bring - you'll all appreciate the sorts of things I mean.
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #68 on: August 14, 2013, 03:20 PM »
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hug Teejay. Again my apologies for posting ir 
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #69 on: August 14, 2013, 03:24 PM »
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hug Teejay. Again my apologies for posting ir 


Not to worry Prod. It was good of you to delete the post, and no harm was done. Time to move on now. Just looked at the clock and realised how soon the tennis coverage starts again! Blimey, I've got my internet shopping to do as well, assuming I don't want to starve after tomorrow Smile.
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #70 on: August 14, 2013, 03:26 PM »
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Good for you Prod!  Very Happy
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Re: fast_clay's match reviews « Reply #71 on: August 14, 2013, 03:40 PM »
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I can imagine how upsetting that was tj.
Yes let's draw a line under it now.  Perhaps it's a lesson that we all need to be careful when posting material that can be hurtful or offensive and I know prod that absolutely wasn't what you meant it to be. So I'm really glad you've responded in the way you did prod.  Much appreciated.
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