You must move in very exalted social circles, Emma!
Not really. I've been to big weddings and small weddings. That's not the point I am making. The key word is 'want'. I'd say most women want to (or dream about) have a big wedding but because of different circumstance, they can't always afford it. However, there are a few who aren't keen on big weddings but that's an exception and exceptions can't be taken as a rule.
All the guys I know (at least), I don’t remember them caring one way or another as far as the weddings were concerned. On the other hand, the girls (most of them) became obsessed with it to the point that one would wish it to be over asap. So these are just personal experiences however but then again, you don’t need to check every single rice to see if they are all properly cooked.
Anyway, I am not a big fan of weddings and marriages myself. I don’t like legal bindings. I think it creates more problems than solutions – especially nowadays where things are far more demanding and of very delicate nature. I am perfectly fine with a very nice and loving relationship but of course people are different.