Hazy: you're so lovely for seeing the positive. I should have added that he selected the 'gift' because she had put a bit of weight on. Now, I'm not saying that that's every man. But it's a man! In the world, going about his business, now perpetuating the idea to other women that they exist primarily to service male sexuality...!
Elly: I hear you. I like a frisson myself - although I suspect I like it cos I was conditioned to like it? I don't actually spend my daily life spoiling Moments by pointing out gender inequality. But I really think it's there - everywhere! And it makes me mad!
Joely, I hear you too. But, men and women are inherently and biologically different. I like to think of gender inequality as gender differences. Don't get me wrong, I'm no simpering wimp, but I do accept the differences, and I really believe those differences are not something any of us can do anything about.
So what would be your ideal relationship with a man?