[Sir Panda]

I wouldn't do that either. Actively seeking a partner is generally a bad idea, in my opinion.

That's why my worst nightmare would be speed dating - you could probably sense the desperation in the air.

Mark met Cate spontaneously on this website, and that is one of the most exciting things about life, you can meet someone new every day and you might just instantly click with them. Dating websites just seem too contrived for me.

[Hazybear]

Does the Bible say anything about handjobs? That may be a loophole you can exploit.

Andrew pretty much got it, though then again I know people training to be ministers for the Church of Scotland who live with their partners I know various couples who draw the line at different points. For me, and again being butally honest and probably coming across so nympho here it would be such a temptation that a little would lead to a lot I fear and I would end up regretting it, which is why I would wait because God gave us sex to enjoy and so I don't want to regret a moment of anything I do, when I finally do it

EDIT: okay then my line is kissing and light petting if we're going to be pedantic about my  past experiences thanks James

[Mark]

I just think it's more ideal if a relationship develops naturally, as opposed to meeting someone with the intention of starting a relationship.

Yes but the way I see it, you can spend as long as you want talking online to them and see if it naturally develops and whether you get a connection, otherwise you can just walk away. If you date IRL, you feel pressure to commit to some degree.

[Clydey]

That's why my worst nightmare would be speed dating - you could probably sense the desperation in the air.

Mark met Cate spontaneously on this website, and that is one of the most exciting things about life, you can meet someone new every day and you might just instantly click with them. Dating websites just seem too contrived for me.

Contrived. That's the word I was going to use. That sums it up nicely.

[Mark]

Mark met Cate spontaneously on this website, and that is one of the most exciting things about life, you can meet someone new every day and you might just instantly click with them. Dating websites just seem too contrived for me.

But what about people like me who are incredibly hansom, rich with endearing qualities and yet will likely never spontaneously meet a life partner due to the complete lack of social life!

Cate was a fluke if you ask me, that sort of spontaneous meet up and connection isn't likely to happen in the near future and I won't be waiting for it.

[tennis_girl]

But what about people like me who are incredibly hansom, rich with endearing qualities

Maybe I do want you in the family after all...

[Sir Panda]

Do you feel like you are ready to meet someone new, Mark? Usually people need a few months at the very least after the break-up of a long relationship.

[Hazybear]

Yes but the way I see it, you can spend as long as you want talking online to them and see if it naturally develops and whether you get a connection, otherwise you can just walk away. If you date IRL, you feel pressure to commit to some degree.

I get that actually. After a few dates etc then you feel like you should be at a certain stage, or that there's expectations. Like I was wavering over a guy I'd been dating fairly casually for a few months and because of his interest and view, he would describe me as his girlfriend whereas I struggled to think of him as my boyfriend, he was a great guy but still in my mind we were still dating rather than in a relationship where we went out on dates - if that makes sense?