being in charge of your own affairs and own destiny is perfectly normal
That's exactly what the Brexiteers said.
how many countries go independent and then rush to come back?
There aren't any comparable examples of a unitary state like the UK splitting up today. A lot of people don't understand just how complicated the integration between the constituent parts of the UK is, and those few that do on the nationalist side don't talk about it for obvious reasons.
Brexit has normalised racism
Bullshit. The UK is and remains one of the least racist countries on the planet. That's not to say that there isn't lots work to do still, but Brexit hasn't changed that.
and resulted in a lot of people becoming insular and selfish - the vaccine supply issue being one area - sure we can
vaccinate everyone in the UK but it’s the whole planet that needs vaccinating to make life normal again.
The UK is one of the larges donors to COVAX, and forced Oxford to partner with AZ to sell the vaccine as cost price, and to do so by spinning up local manufacturing chains.
The only people being insular and selfish about it are the American (export controls), and the EU commission (export controls).
Scotland can stand on its own but still be a part of everything.
A diminished, increasingly inconsequential part.
And "stand on its own" is a pretty low bar.
I want to live in a fair and just society where there is not a need for folk to be begging for food and making decisions between feeding their kids and heating a house.
Even the most ardent of Tory supporters know this is not something that the Tory government prioritise.
The Scottish government has tremendous amounts of power to enact policy that would do just that. It refuses to because it does't care. It only cares about independence.
If you voted for eg. Sarwar's Labour, you'd get a transformative government without the cost of blowing up an entire country.
There are small steps in Scotland - the Baby Box, free prescriptions, Scottish Child Payment , free school lunches for P1-3 - small steps but things that make a difference to help with issues that families have.
With the exception of the baby box (a policy with, uh, uncertain utility) those are all matched by similar programmes in the other UK nations.
Which really does expose one of the core points: the Scottish Government could go a lot further, but in doing so it'd harm the independence movement.
In addition, you - like almost all nationalists - refuse to acknowledge the incredible cost and damage independence would cause. You claim to care about equality and redistribution, but refuse to vote for a party that would actually enact those policies. And you also support a catastrophic act of self harm that'd have a material and lasting impact on the most vulnerable.
Seems to me that it's very much about sovereignty to you, and damn the consequences. Sounds like those dastardly Brexiteers, doesn't it?